Does Not Finding Out the Sex of your Baby Make for a Bad Baby Shower?
When struggling with the decision of learning the babyโs sex, many parents-to-be consider whether or not finding out the sex of your baby will make for a bad baby shower. Does it really?
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Generally, I think humans like predictability. Thatโs why we look for patterns, make routines and search for meaning in everything, and itโs no different with birth. As soon as it was possible to predict a babyโs sex during pregnancy, most women flocked to take advantage. Everyone has their own reasoning for choosing not to find out or reveal the sex of their baby ahead of time, but pregnant families often go through multiple phases of making that decision. At some point, many parents-to-be wonder if finding out the sex of your baby makes for a bad baby shower. Will you leave with boring gifts? Does it mean thereโs absolutely no personalization? Are your friends and family members bothered by not knowing? Eventually, youโll realize it doesnโt matter. Keeping the secret isnโt about the baby shower (or about THEM), itโs about the excitement of meeting your baby for the first time.
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The Pros and Cons of Not Finding Out the Sex of your Baby
Thereโs really only one con to not finding out the sex of your baby ahead of time: not knowing. Some people can handle that anticipation. Others can not only handle it but truly love the surprise. Personally, Iโm too much of a planner to not know.ย
On the other hand, as one mom writes, itโs nice to keep ONE thing to yourself. Whether itโs because you didnโt want to know or because you didnโt want to share, the sex of your baby could be one of the only things in your life to remain a secret. Enjoy it. In fact, make a bet out of it. What better game for a baby shower than betting on the sex of your unborn child so you can start a college fund before theyโre even born? Plus, youโll never have a bad baby shower when there are gift involved. You wonโt get dozens of clichรฉ gender-specific outfits and instead be given gift cards, books, strollers or other things you may actually need.
Ultimately, finding the sex of your baby doesnโt matter, much like choosing a gender neutral name doesnโt matter.
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What to Buy for a Gender Neutral Baby Shower
Loving the idea of not finding out the sex of your baby ahead of time? Here are a few great baby shower gifts that are both cute and useful:
- Diapers โ Everyone underestimates what a useful baby shower gift this is!
- Clothing and Blanket Basics โ Instead of traditional clichรฉ boy or girl clothing in shades of pink and blue, guests can branch out to purchase other colors, like mauve, rust or olive! Everyone loves buying baby clothes, so at least this way they give you more useful options, like superior basics and soft swaddles and blankets that are about the quality, not just the outward gender appearance.
- Big-Ticket Items โ Having a baby is expensive. Helping parents-to-be by pooling money to purchase big ticket items like strollers, car seats, cribs and breast pumps will help them more than gender-specific toys would.
- Diaper Bag โ The diaper bag is more about the parents than the baby! Choose something in a color, pattern or style that will make the mom happy. Itโs completely separate from the sex of the baby.
- Gift Cards โ Sometimes, a gift card is all they want! I know, I know. It doesnโt feel special or heartfelt to give a gift card, but truthfully, itโs what everyone really want.ย
Did you find out the sex of your baby before birth? Tell us what your gender neutral baby shower was like!
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