How to Transition to Toddler Bed: Parent's Guide

Eventually, the time will come when your tiny tot isn’t so tiny anymore. You blink, and suddenly they’re stringing together complete sentences, using the potty (sometimes), and gifting you spontaneous hugs and kisses.

Another change that happens when your baby transitions from infancy to toddlerhood involves the transition from crib to toddler bed. This is a huge milestone in your little one’s life—and yours!

If the idea of making the move from crib to toddler bed sounds intimidating, you’re not alone. We’re here to hold your hand and seamlessly walk you through how to transition to a toddler bed so you can navigate this exciting journey with confidence and ease.

The first step in transitioning to a toddler bed is deciding when to make the move. Fortunately, no hard and fast rule demands you move them on their second birthday, or even their third, for that matter.

Rather, there are a few questions you can ask yourself to help you make the transition when it’s right for you and your tot.

Whether you’re planning on making your toddler a big brother or sister or you’re already pregnant, it’s important to decide whether you want to recycle your toddler’s current crib or purchase another.

If you decide to reuse your current crib, consider transitioning them to their toddler bed a few months before the new baby arrives. This gives them ample time to feel comfortable in their new bed and may help them avoid feelings of displacement when they see the baby sleeping in their old crib.

More than anything else, is your mini-me showing signs that they’re ready for a big kid bed? While you don’t need to wait for them to check off every item from the following list, generally speaking, toddlers are ready for the transition if you’re nodding yes to one or more of the following signs:

• They’ve made a break for freedom by climbing out of their crib

• They’re 36 inches tall (or tall enough to climb out if they want to)

• They’re between 18 months and three and a half years old

• Their chest is as tall as the railing in their crib

• They’re asking to sleep in a ‘big kid’ bed

While you may get excited about sleeping on a brand-new bed frame and mattress, your toddler is likely not as thrilled at the prospect. If faced with this unanticipated and big change, they’re more likely to resist—or sneak into your room for reassurance multiple times throughout the night.

Fortunately, there are a few proactive measures you can take to help them make the big transition more smoothly from crib to toddler bed, such as:

• Introducing the idea gradually – Talk to your little one about the toddler bed transition a few weeks before the new bed arrives. Use positive words and feelings of excitement to build their enthusiasm. You can also incorporate age-appropriate books or television shows that highlight instances of other children enjoying their new big kid beds.

• Involving your toddler in the process – Another way to increase their excitement at the prospect of a toddler bed is by allowing them to be part of the decision-making. After you’ve whittled down the bedding options, consider letting them choose the final design or pattern. Then, once you’ve assembled the bed, ask them if they want to help you make the bed and add all of the finishing touches, such as throw pillows and their favorite stuffed animals.

You introduced the idea to your little one, picked out a bed frame, and let them choose the bedding. What’s next?

Putting your plan into action and letting them sleep in their big kid bed.

Below, we’ve included a few tips on how to get your toddler to stay in their own bed during the transition.

While your toddler may be excited about their new bed, they’re probably a little nervous, too. You can ease their nerves by continuing with your usual bedtime routine as if nothing has changed.

For example, if your routine consists of brushing their teeth, reading a few books in their bedroom, and singing a lullaby when they get in bed, keep it up! Maintaining their normal routine can help them feel more relaxed as they adjust to their new bed.

On night one, let your little one know your sleep rules and expectations for their toddler bed. For example, you can say that you expect them to stay in their beds until morning (even though you know this likely will not happen) and to call for you if they need anything. This will help them learn how to stay in their bed at night.

While these expectations might—okay, will—take time to master, they help set more structure to your current routine.

This transition is a big deal for a two or three-year-old, so be sure to offer as much reassurance as they need. Give them words of encouragement each time they show enthusiasm for sleeping in their bed. And don’t forget, there’s no such thing as handing out too many cuddles during this big transition. Hugs and kisses can provide additional support when your little one needs a reassuring presence.

Positive reinforcements are key in helping your tot embrace their new bed. Each time they stay in their bed all night or follow the bedtime rules, treat them to a little positive praise. You can choose from tangible or intangible rewards, such as:

• Providing verbal praise , like “I’m so proud of you! You’re such a big kid!”

•  Create a sticker chart  and give them a sticker each time they do a good job.

• Giving them a small treat , like an M&M or a piece of their favorite candy

Don’t be surprised if you wake up in the middle of the night and see their little eyes staring at you from the side of your bed. Try to be understanding and offer support as they adjust to the new normal of their toddler bed.

Sources: 

1. Sleep Foundation. When to Transition From Crib to A Toddler Bed. https://www.sleepfoundation.org/children-and-sleep/when-to-switch-to-toddler-bed

2. Very Well Family. Choosing a Toddler Bed. https://www.verywellfamily.com/choosing-a-toddler-bed-5208432